Calicem Dulcem, Calicem Terra
been a while, sorry about that.
I’ve always liked family mottos. James Bond has “Orbis non Sufficit” (The world is not enough); Starks have “Winter is Coming;” Targaryen’s have “Fire and Blood.” It’s always interesting what a family founder ages ago felt needed to be known about their family.
Growing up in the flowers household I actually introduced what the three of us consider to be our motto: “Cup of Sugar, Cup of Dirt”. It was something I heard in an interview with John C. McGinley (Dr. Cox) from Scrubs. He was describing the relationship of the lead character (Zach Braff’s JD) and his reluctant mentor. He’d encourage him, build him up, push him in the right direction and then turn around and pick on him or mock him. In our family, it is clear that we love each other. None of us doubt that of one another, but continuously we make efforts to ensure nobody gets too full of themselves.
While that is a useful summary of our small family unit, I was curious what our real motto would be. I kept trying and researching. Finally, I found this “Flores Curat Deus” or “God takes care of the Flowers.” It’s a reference to Matthew 6, where Jesus calls upon those listening to consider the flowers of the field. How beautiful they are and how fleeting they are and yet how much God cares for them. His point is that we have no cause to worry.
This passage was one of the keys in our family making through the months and years following the divorce. There were plenty of things to fear: losing our home, losing my job or worse dad losing his; but the call of Christ is to live a life that is different, one that trusts God, especially in those moments when you pull into the driveway, coasting on empty, just glad not to find that the bank came and changed the locks.
Some of you out there are worried, because times are tough, because you don’t know what to expect day to day. Will you lose your job tomorrow? Your house? Will your power be cut off? Your significant leave you? whatever it is, know that it’s not meant to be easy. It’s not meant to be carried on your own. So, share your burdens, lean on others. and help carry theirs. Most of all don’t worry, because worry (like hatred, envy, and so many other inclinations) is an emotion that only takes.
Love, Trust, Hope… those are things that give.